Ghomeshi two sides of the same coin
the past few weeks, two stories have been playing out
in the media on both sides of the border involving two
male celebrities accused of sexually assaulting multiple
female victims. One is comedic icon Bill Cosby and the
other is former rising media darling Jian Ghomeshi.
accusers say he fed them drugs for the sole purpose of
robbing them of their faculties so he could have sex with
them. If the allegations are true, theres no difference
between what he did than someone who jumps out of bush
and forces himself on a woman at knifepoint. Theyre
brings me to Ghomeshi whose case is not so cut and dried.
Cosby, Ghomeshi is also on trial for sexual assault. But
unlike Cosby, Ghomeshi did use drugs to disarm his victims.
Nor did he use a knife, or otherwise threaten with physical
violence. He disarmed them with his charm and celebrity,
which when used in combination, can be just effective
as any date drug Cosby may have had in his collection..
order for Ghomeshi to be found guilty the must prove that
the sex he had with his three accusers, which at various
times included slapping, punching and hair-pulling, was
kicker is that Ghomeshi has already admitted to doing
all of the above, except the non-consensual part. His
defence is that the acts were, in fact, consensual, or
at the very least his accusers never asked him to stop.
that end, his lawyer has been able to present e-mails
and other physical evidence in the form of a six-page
handwritten love letter from one of his accusers that
show that all three of them continued to pursue a relationship
with Ghomeshi after the incidents.
exactly, the type of response one would expect from a
victim, or victims, who just had uninvited, non-consensual
relations with someone who had physically assaulted them.
well anyone and everyone who has been following the trial
believe Ghomeshi will be acquitted of all charges and
walk out of the courtroom a free man with dozens, if not
hundreds, of female admirers willing to share his affinity
for rough sex.
therein lies the crux of the matter. Ghomeshi may not
be guilty of rape, but he is guilty of sexual degrading
the three women who came forward, and likely many more
who havent done so.
it to say that we still have a long way to go when it
comes to how men treat women both inside and outside the
the one reason why I am so supportive of sex education
in the classroom, along with self esteem lessons for young
girls and gender sensitivity classes for young boys.
stance is based on my belief that if parents arent
willing to teach sex education at home we damn well better
teach it at school. No so much because you should be worried
about your kid, but because you should be worried about
the Jian Ghomeshis of the world. And trust me, if they
dont learn about healthy sex in school, these kids
are going to turn to the Internet and the plethora of
free porn sites that are available at the click of a mouse..
part of a generation of males whose sexual evolution began
with the lingerie section of the Sears catalogue, progressed
to National Geographic, and eventually ended up by flipping
through the pages of a Penthouse magazine found in our
fathers sock drawer.
todays generation of young, curious, post-pubescent
males has to do is turn on their computer and click away.
What they can find makes the old Penthouse Forum letters
seem like nursery rhymes.
have to do better. We have to empower our young girls
and we have to teach our young men that sexually degrading
women, even if they dont object, is wrong.
we dont, we are going to end up with a lot more
Ghomeshis and even more victims.
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