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FREE FAMILY BUDGETING WORKSHOP hosted by the Community Pentecostal Church /Christians Against Poverty(CAP), 1825 St Joseph Blvd. at 6:30 p.m. Learn how to save and pay off your debts workshop. For more information call 613-837-3555.


FIRST CHOICE will entertain from 6:30 p.m. to 10:30 p.m. at the Orléans Legion, 800 Taylor Creek Dr. for your listening and dancing pleasure. Buffet dinner served from 5 p.m. to 7 p.m. For reservations call 613-590-7227.


COMMUNITY FUNDRAISER hosted by the Royal Oak Pub Orléans in support of Habitat for Humanity from 1 p.m. to 11 p.m. Community BBQ with live bands and a silent auction...The action starts at 1 p.m. with the first musical act. House band Mandie & JF and the Chris Evans Band will take to the stage starting at 7 p.m.!! Come have some fun and show your support!!


COMMUNITY GARAGE SALE hosted by the Greater Avalon Community Association from 8 a.m. to 1 p.m. Plenty of bargains to be found as the residents of Avalon take part in this annual community event.


ORLÉANS CRAFT BEER FESTIVAL from 4 p.m. to 11 p.m. on June 6 and 7 and from 2 p.m. to 11 p.m. on Saturday, June 8 in the Centrum Blvd. Festival Plaza. Presented by Orléans Festivals and the Heart of Orléans BIA featuring craft beer from 29 different craft brewers. Food vendors will include Orléans own Meatings BBQ. Live music all three days. For more information visit www.orleansfestivals.ca.

 

Pre-planning some end of life arrangements has many benefits
By Heather Jamieson
May 16, 2018

It wasn’t as difficult as we thought and the benefits were greater than we had imagined. My husband of nearly 37 years and I are in the process of completing arrange-ments for our cremation and internment. We’d skirted around the issue for years, intellectually knowing we should, but emotionally hesitant. But it made no sense to keep putting it off.

Our initial motivation for moving forward was to not leave the decisions to our children and the surviving parent. As my husband says, we can’t control when we will die, but we can control much of what happens afterwards.

We have long made clear our wish to be organ donors and are registered as such; we both want to be cremated; and we knew where we wanted to be interred. Both of us live far from our birthplaces, so there is no family burial site that felt right to both of us. So Ottawa it is.

I called a pre-planning consultant at an area cemetery, admitting we neither knew the questions to ask nor what decisions needed to be made. We just knew it was time to find out.

Starting the conversation was easier than I had feared. Granted, I got emotional a couple of times during our visit. But, I cry at weddings, so shedding a few tears as I contemplated my burial was no surprise. And I am sure I was not the first.

The first thing we learned were the industry’s words to describe the circum-stances under which funeral arrangements are being made – “pre-need” or “at-need.” The latter is when death has occurred or is imminent and there is no luxury of time. We are very glad to be “pre-need.”

I’d thought the greatest benefit of pre-planning was to save the children and surviving parent the difficult task of making decisions under emotional stress. But, having never talked about it, neither my husband nor I would have actually known what the other one wanted.

We had to decide on a location within the cemetery; the type of marker; and what would be written on it. I don’t think any of the decisions we’ve made would have been as clear, or felt as right, if they had been made in the aftermath of one of us dying or receiving a terminal diagnosis.

I felt strongly that I would like a short epitaph on our marker. But, as an anglophone married to a francophone, I didn’t want to use one language over the other. Being “pre-need,” I had the time (with the help of Google) to explore options. I believe we came up with the perfect solution: ACTA NON VERBA, Latin for “Deeds not words.”

We think it describes our philosophy of trying to be good people, giving back to our community and supporting our friends and family without the need for recognition. There was always the option of separate epitaphs or a bilingual one, but that would make the bronze marker too busy, since we don’t share a last name. We went alphabetically, so he gets top billing!

I cannot imagine that either of us, in grief, would have come up with this work-around.

Our decisions have taken the financial burden off our children and taken the guesswork out of the process. We are both happy with the decisions we have made together. Dying is not cheap, but even if we both live another 20 years, the bill is paid and the cost of the services purchased will not increase.

The one thing we haven’t done is make any plans for a Celebration of Life or Memorial Service. In our mind, there are just too many variables - which one of us will pass away first, when might that be and in what kind of health will the surviving spouse be? The only thing we know for sure is that we want it simple.

Another observation is the depth of commitment to each other this decision represents. Moving from one province to another, getting married and having children were all monumental decisions. But being buried together is a profound commitment.

Finally, the thing for which I am most grateful, and which is only possible because we are planning ahead, my woodworker husband is able to make the boxes that will contain our ashes. It not only saves money, it gives me great comfort knowing I will be surrounded for eternity in an oak box he lovingly crafted. Have the conversation.

 

Entertainment

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Missoula Children’s Theatre returns to Orléans

Sir Will production of 'Seussical the Musical' hits all the right notes

Orléans Old Players present pair of comedy short stories


NCAFA, Jr. Gee-Gees form elite minor football program

Les Sittelles hosts first annual Brian Leblanc gymnastics meet

Orléans native to play for Great Britain at World Hockey Championships

 
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VIEWPOINT: SNC Lavalin affair puts Liberal majority in jeopardy

 

WALTER ROBINSON: Summertime in Orléans offers plenty to see and do

 

HEATHER JAMIESON: Pre-planning some end of life arrangements has many benefits

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